Toolbox – David Mariner

Gender and Sexuality Pride Flags

December 4, 2022August 18, 2022 by David Mariner

Here is a quick guide to some of the most common flags used in the LGBT community (and beyond) to describe gender and/or sexuality related identities. While definitions are provided for reference, please know definitions of many of these terms are evolving and changing all the time. I encourage you to explore these identities further to learn more.

Agender Pride Flag

Agender refers to a person A person who does not identify themselves as. having a particular gender. The Agender Pride Flag was designed by Salem X in 2014.

The flag features a mirrored design of seven horizontal stripes. The black and white stripes represent an absence of gender, the gray stripe represents semi-genderlessness and the central green stripe represents nonbinary genders.

Asexual Pride Flag

An aromantic is a person who experiences little or no romantic attraction to others. Where romantic people have an emotional need to be with another person in a romantic relationship, aromantics are often satisfied with friendships and other non-romantic relationships. An asexual person may or may not experience romantic attraction (see aromantic) but will feel no need to act out that attraction sexually.

In the Summer of 2010, a number of asexuality sites, led by users on AVEN, came up with a number of designs for an asexuality flag, then held a multi-stage vote to determine the winner. The selected design was created by AVEN user standup

Aromantic Pride Flag

There are two different versions of the Aromantic Pride Flag. This is the one currently most commonly used.

Bisexual Pride Flag

Bisexuality is romantic attraction, sexual attraction or sexual behavior toward more than one sex or gender identity, or romantic or sexual attraction to people of any sex or gender identity; this latter aspect is sometimes termed pansexuality.

The bisexual pride flag was designed by Michael Page in 1998. The first bisexual pride flag was inspired by his work with BiNet USA.

Bear Pride Flag

In male gay culture, a bear is often a larger, hairier man who projects an image of rugged masculinity. Bears are one of many LGBT communities with events, codes, and a culture-specific identity. In many communities bear clubs” have been created to provide social and sexual opportunities. Many clubs are loosely organized social groups; others are modeled on leather biker-patch clubs, with a strict set of bylaws, membership requirements, and charities. Craig Byrnes created the Bear pride flag in 1995.

Genderqueer Pride Flag

Genderqueer describes a person who does not subscribe to conventional gender distinctions but identifies with neither, both, or a combination of male and female genders. The Genderqueer Pride Flag was created by Marilyn Roxie in 2011. This flag has also been adopted by many in the Gender Non-Binary community. While some currently use these two terms interchangeably, others maintain genderqueer and gender non-binary have overlapping, but separate definitions.

Intersex Flag

Intersex is a general term used for a variety of conditions in which a person is born with a reproductive or sexual anatomy that doesn’t seem to fit the typical definitions of female or male. There are two distinct flags commonly associated with intersex identities. The first one (not pictured here) is derivative of the Trans Pride flag and is not used as commonly these days. The flag shown here was created by Intersex Australia in 2013.

Lesbian Pride Flag

While there have been different versions of the Lesbian Pride Flag over the years, this is the one most commonly used today. Emily Gwen created this flag in 2018 based on the lickstick lesbian flag . This flag retained the seven stripes from the lipstick flag, but changed the top set to orange shades. The stripes, from top to bottom, represent ‘gender non-conformity’ (dark orange), ‘independence’ (orange), ‘community’ (light orange), ‘unique relationships to womanhood’ (white) , ‘serenity and peace’ (pink), ‘love and sex’ (dusty pink), and ‘femininity’ (dark rose).

Leather Pride Flag

Leather culture is most visible in gay communities and most often associated with gay men (“leathermen”), but it is also reflected in various ways in the gay, lesbian, bisexual, and straight worlds. Many people associate leather culture with the consensual exchange of power in romantic and/or sexual relationships. The leather flag was created by Tony DeBlase in 1989. He first presented the design at the International Mister Leather event in Chicago, Illinois, U.S. on May 28, 1989.

Nonbinary Pride Flag

Kye Rowan created the nonbinary pride flag in 2014. It was meant to be flown alongside the genderqueer flag. 17-year-old Kyle Rowan created the binary flag for existing outside binary which is symbolized by the yellow. The white represents all genders, black is no gender, and purple is a mix of genders.

Pansexual Pride Flag

Pansexuals have the capability of attraction to others regardless of their gender identity or biological sex.

A pansexual could be open to someone who is male, female, transgender, intersex, or agendered/genderqueer.

Poly Pride Flag

Polyamory is the philosophy or state of being in love or romantically involved with more than one person at the same time. Polyamory is the practice, desire, or acceptance of having more than one intimate relationship at a time with the knowledge and consent of everyone involved.

The flag was created by Jim Evans.

The Rainbow Flag

This is the inclusive flag most frequently associated with the entire lesbian, gay, bisexual, trans, queer, & questioning communities. The original gay pride flag flew in the San Francisco Gay Freedom Day Parade on June 25, 1978 and was designed by Gilbert Baker. The original Rainbow Flag had an additional hot pink stripe that is no longer used today.

Progress Pride Flag

Graphic designer Daniel Quasar has added a five-colored chevron to the LGBT Rainbow Flag to place a greater emphasis on “inclusion and progression”.

The flag includes black and brown stripes to represent marginalized LGBT communities of color, along with the colors pink, light blue and white, which are used on the Transgender Pride Flag. Quasar’s design builds on a design adopted by the city of Philadelphia in June 2017. Philadelphia’s version added black and brown stripes to the top of the Rainbow Flag, to represent LGBT communities of color.

Transgender Pride Flag

Transgender is a term used to describe people whose gender identity differs from the sex the doctor marked on their birth certificate. Gender identity is a person’s internal, personal sense of being a man or a woman (or someone outside of that gender binary). For transgender people, the sex they were assigned at birth and their own internal gender identity do not match. The Trans Pride flag was designed by Monica Helms in 1999

Straight Ally Flag

A straight ally or heterosexual ally is a heterosexual and/or cisgender person who supports equal civil rights, gender equality, LGBT social movements, and challenges homophobia, biphobia and transphobia.

Sitting at the Table: Medical Research Advocacy

January 27, 2019January 27, 2019 by David Mariner

Your voice matters. As a community activist your voice is needed when it comes to medical research, especially when researchers are recruiting trial participants from your community or trying to address health issues that impact your community.

Sitting at the table for the first time, however, can be intimidating. Many years ago, JD Davids put together these tips for Project TEACH, with help from Charles Nelson, Kiyoshi Kuromiya, and Jane Shull. These tips remain as relevant today as they were when they were first written.

1. Remember the people who aren’t in the room: You are there to represent your community, not to impress the other people at the table. You must be clear about what your community needs and wants, and report back information to people who are not there. If you are sitting on a scientific committee designing research, you don’t have to be a scientist — you need to think about and talk about how their research will affect your community. Don’t be afraid to go back and ask your community what they think.

2. Set goals to focus your participation: Your homework is to know the issue, and figure out how it affects you and your community. What can this group or committee do about this issue? Your goals must be clear, wellthought out, and possible for this group of individuals to do at this time. You can have goals for each meeting, and overall goals for the committee’s work. What goals must be met, and what goals are you willing to compromise in order to win the most important things? Discuss these with your contacts and supporters. If you learn more or situations change, look again at your goals and change them if necessary.

3. Be truly present: You need to be there physically, mentally, and emotionally. The first key to this is showing up. Go to all the meetings. If they do not meet at times you can attend, demand that the times change, or find someone else to take your place. If they communicate through conference calls, be on all the calls, or you may miss important information.

Listen to everything. It is not helpful for you to demand an answer to a question that was already answered 10 minutes ago. Try your best to keep track of the conversation. If you ask a question, you must listen to the answer — do not assume you know what they are going to say. It is very easy to get distracted, especially on conference calls. Try to notice when you are not listening, and learn to concentrate on what is going on. Bring a tape recorder if you have trouble remembering the details or taking notes, and review it later.

Stay awake. If you find yourself getting sleepy, stand up or walk around if possible. Go to the bathroom and splash cold water on your face. Don’t load up on coffee and sweets — it can just lead to a crash. Snacks like nuts and fruit can give you a better energy boost.

Focus on what you do understand, not what you don’t yet understand. It is easy to become discouraged, but remember that you have support and can learn. Picture ideas in your head at first, rather than trying to write down details, especially with scientific and treatment issues.

4. Make all your comments and get your questions answered, sooner or later: You always have the right to ask questions. If you do not understand something, and no one is helping you, interrupt the meeting and demand an explanation. If you have a comment to make, do not let the conversation or meeting end until that comment is made.

If you ask a question, and feel that it was not answered all the way, point that out. If you still feel like you are getting the run-around, you have to make a decision — should you continue to interrupt the meeting, or will you give up for now and get your answer later from one of your contacts? Either decision is the right one at different times — it will become easier to tell with experience.

If you are not sure of how to say something important or sensitive during a meeting, make yourself a note. Then work with your contacts and supporters afterwards to write a letter to all the committee members, stating your position, and email or fax it to them or bring it to the next meeting.

Don’t be afraid of disagreements, even with your contacts and allies. A good working relationship can include arguments, so people know where you stand and that they can’t walk over you. Do stay open and honest without making personal attacks.

Sometimes you may have to pick your battles, and let things go if you can get an answer outside the meeting, or come back with a stronger suggestion or proposal next time. Remember, you are there to meet your goals, in order to help your community. If you call someone a “murderer” the first time you have a minor disagreement or because they say something dumb, they may never listen to anything you say again. Some people will say ignorant or offensive things to distract you from the real issues — don’t fall for it.

Avoid making up facts and figures. You may get caught. If you are pretty sure, say “I think that…” or “I believe that…”, and hope that someone else in the room can back you up. Or write a note to a contact near-by, asking if they know and can make the point. Sometimes you may need to bluff to bring out an important issue or make a point. You can act like you know the details without saying any. Use words like “approximately,” “about,” or “roughly” to describe your best guess, as in “About half the people dropped out of the study because of side effects. Obviously there is a problem here.”

5. Get in on the details. Most of your goals may be for big issues and decisions. But smaller things can make a large difference, too. Sometimes the people who write the final wording of a policy or decision have the most power. Do not give your okay for a general statement and go home — help write it, or demand to see a copy before it is made final or sent out!

Talking about Suicide and LGBT Populations

February 23, 2019April 20, 2016 by David Mariner

In the past few years we’ve seen more awareness in our community about suicide and LGBT populations, especially LGBT Youth. Studies like the Youth Risk Behavior Survey -when LGBT data is collected by some states at the local level – have consistently shown that LGBT Youth are at higher risk for ‘suicidal ideation’ (suicidal thoughts). This is largely due to minority stress which is the stress your experience from living in a world that is often hostile and discriminatory to LGBT people; and all the little and big things you have to cope with living in that world.

This is an important issue to talk about, of course, but how we talk about it matters greatly. There is a growing body of evidence that suggests that suicide is in part, contagious. People who are considering suicide are already at risk, of course, but publicity about suicides can be a trigger.

There are definitely things to avoid. This includes discussing the details of the method used in a suicide death, and idealizing suicide victims.

To learn more, read this thoughtful report from the Center for American Progress.

Talking about Suicide and LGBT Populations

New Guide to Supporting LGBT Asylum Seekers

November 24, 2016October 21, 2015 by David Mariner

The Human Rights Campaign (HRC) Foundation in partnership with the LGBT Freedom and Asylum Network (LGBT-FAN), and the National LGBTQ Task Force, recently announced an essential new guide, Stronger Together: a Guide to Supporting LGBT Asylum Seekers, during an event at HRC’s Equality Center.

Stronger Together provides crucial advice and guidance to service providers working with LGBT asylum seekers coming to the United States in search of better, safer lives. The work of Center Global is featured prominently in the report. Center Global, a program of the DC Center for the LGBT Community, supports LGBT asylum seekers and refugees in the District of Columbia.

Every year, thousands of LGBT people flee to the United States (U.S.) from home countries where they face persecution and violence because of who they are or whom they love. However, once arriving in the US, LGBT asylum seekers frequently face the daunting task of building new lives in what can be an unfamiliar and often hostile environment.

Asylum seekers who are LGBT often face barriers that others do not. They may continue to face homophobia or transphobia, often arrive in the U.S.without family support, and may be rejected or ignored by organizations that might be helpful to non-LGBT asylum seekers. Even well-meaning individuals could inadvertently undermine the wellbeing of LGBT asylum seekers by providing incorrect or inappropriate advice. Stronger Together offers service providers information on how best to help newcomers adjust, including advising on employment counseling, access to housing, and where to seek legal representation. The guide focuses on assisting service providers in empowering LGBT asylum seekers.

“LGBTQI asylum seekers and asylees should be leaders in this work. They are experts on their own stories and needs, and can use their expertise to serve their own community.” said Nikilas Mawanda, a Ugandan activist and asylee who also contributed to Stronger Together.

“It is wonderful that people in the U.S. want to support LGBT asylum seekers” said SiobhÃ¡n McGuirk, Stronger Together co-author. “It is important that this movement develops in ways that respect the diversity, agency, and views of LGBT asylum seekers and asylees, while also contributing to the wider immigration justice movement. Stronger Together reflects that aim. Over a hundred people contributed to this project, including LGBT asylum seekers and asylees, service providers, lawyers, researchers, and activists.”

The situation for LGBT people around the world varies widely. As LGBT equality advances in some places, people continue to suffer from discrimination, persecution and violence around the world.

– An estimated five percent of U.S. asylum claims are based on persecution of sexual orientation or gender identity, suggesting that the U.S. would have received 4,802 applications citing anti-LGBT persecution in 2014.
– In 10 countries worldwide, same-sex activity is punishable by death, and 75 countries criminalize same-sex relationships. Hundreds of transgender individuals have been brutally murdered in the last year.
– In a growing number of countries, governments have sought to silence equality advocates and organizations with so-called “anti-propaganda” laws and legislation.

To read the full report click on this link: Stronger Together: A Guide to Supporting LGBT Asylum Seekers.